Abstained from blogging for a week and am back again writing! Found it quite a self-preoccupied vanity thing sometimes

The past week has been spent in my reservist camp - Tengah Airbase. Was training almost everyday for the IPPT but realised on Wednesday that it is cancelled! Oww…what a wasted effort! I quite cheepo one man; want the $400 incentive

Was chatting with a sister on MSN regarding the definition of “Patoh-ing”. I might not be clear in my elucidations, but here’s what I was trying to say:

The 2 categories can be abit simplistic. Of course you can argue that you can differentiate them into stage 1 and stage 2. But what I am trying to do is to reflect a continum of approaches in the guys’ perspective with two opposite ends. Should he get to know the opposite sex with the first or second approach? How deliberate and proactive should he be in getting to know the girl/s? As the male species, should we initiate a chase since it shows our sincerity or should we go slow in the short term so that things will go much faster/smoother in the long term? What is a mature and self controlled approach that subjugates hormonal proclivities to the more important issues of God’s calling, timing and will?

And there are other factors of consideration. What happens when the the girl or guy is not in the same social circles as you? What happens when in the economics of supply and demand, you happen to be a very eligible individual with lots of admirers clinging at your feet.. Obviously, you can afford the luxury of approach 2. But think again for people who are not so beautiful in the world’s eyes. Obviously, each chase that they experience (i mean the girl), would be extra meaningful? And that would save them the hassle of deciding on whether the admirer is the God’s choice anot, since there isn’t much choice in the first place. I was chatting with Stanley last sunday about this, and he mentioned an example - Joni Eareckson Tada; who whilst being an invalid, can still be just as attractive. I long to concur with what he said…that inner beauty still counts. But with the world being predominantly superficial (including most of us christians), she will remain a rare exception, to have found relationship this way. The question that begs answering is: can we trust the one up there?

I guess most of us at our age grapple with these issues alot, whether verbalised or hidden in the heart. My personal view is that both approaches are possible depending on the situation. I think I have made mistakes in retrospect; facing rejections, embracing disappointments and being hurt, as well as doing all these to others. But through it all, clinging to God and experiencing His love helps me to overcome! If I am desparate, let me find security in the Lord. If I am lonely, let me delight in His love. If I am impatient, let me learn to wait. I should certainly trust Him more than SDU…that the Lord is our Match Maker.

And finally, just a funny note from one of our CGLs - Wen Ee. When asked whether she prefers the “traditional macho” type or the “sensitive SNAG”, she opted for option 3: whatever the type, gimme a God fearer. Woohoo!